So I am an empath myself.
My friend who I am very close to whom I love so much... She never said she was sad (talking online) but I could sense it. She was really sad and then went to bed. Now I can't seem to shake the sadness she felt off of me!
Aroma therapy works wonders. Get some incense or a nice smelling candle and relax. Think about happy things while watching the flame a enjoying the aroma. Then before bed, think of the happy things again, whether the same ones or something more. If you think you need to, cleanse your place with sage. I had a friend who left anger with me in my home. Took me 3 days of aroma and sage to get the feeling out. But point is, it did work. You will gain more control as you experience it more. Hope this helps. Blessed Be...
There are magicks that will help you. Magick works in such way that it will take repeated efforts and some things like meditation and changes to the way you live and think. For instance (as a simiar physical situation from life) It would take more than one visit to a therapist to help; it would take multiple visits and active participation from you and there would likely be exercises or lifestyle changes essentially assigned by the therapist, etc. The same thing goes with magick.
I suggest that you start banishing on a regular basis. Banishing not only cleanses an area of negativity, it also balances the area energetically. When healing it is normal to experience little bouts or flashes of negative emotions and these emotions affect the energy of where it happened. Haven't you ever walked into a room and been able to just feel angry tension or fear, even though there was no indication that anything was wrong? The emotions had imprinted upon the energy. This can make it difficult to get over negative emotions because the energy only encourages you to keep feeling it. It is therefore important to banish or cleanse the place you live so that you're not held back by stray feelings.
I specifically suggested a banishing over a cleansing because banishings involve balancing the energy in addition to cleaning it up.. This is why such damage generally expresses itself as some sort of extreme. Just like with the negative feelings, the elements wherever you are will affect you. Fiery places make you aggressive; Airy places make you intellectual but detached, etc.. Banishing will balance between the elements to keep any from being particularly influential upon you, thus helping to keep yourself balanced.
I would also suggest meditations, particularly zazen. A lot of healing is just digging up buried feelings or thoughts and talking them through with yourself until they don't need to be buried. Meditation aids in this by helping calm and center the mind. I particularly suggest zazen because in zazen there is no music, no visualization, no concept or idea you concentrate on. In zazen you sit staring at a blank wall (or empty floor) and try not to think - it is an exercise in being perfectly alone with yourself. I have personally experienced that zazen can not only dig things up quite well, it leaves you calm enough to actually deal with them.
Grounding, centering, and banishing are all very good ways to help with that.
Now let's talk astrologically, just as I like. ;)
A lot of those days are also caused by things like really bad astrological aspects (like Mars entering a sign it hates or Mercury going retrograde) or the moon going void of course. I have found that a lot of this kind of negativity can be avoided just by knowing enough about the astrological forecast to see it coming. It can also help prevent long-term problems by making you more understanding of the situation. Like when Moon is in Aries, people are more hot-headed and prone to arguing, and if you realize it's just the astrology messing with your friend, they don't really mean that insult, you know not to take it seriously and it's one of those little things that can help prevent long-term arguments and problems.
As the person said above me, I definitely recommend grounding and venerating yourself. I also recommend shielding yourself before and afterwards so it blocks most of it out next time. I think you should start thinking ahead though, negative emotions are everywhere and they are the most overwhelming and can have negative effects in your body even if it isn't even your feelings. I personally shield every other day, and I really think it's a good idea to shield every day to help protect you from things like this to happen.
Re: Need help from empaths By: WhiteRav3n / Knowledgeable
Post # 7 Dec 10, 2012
Ground yourself and purify your energy. You can purify with a shower/bath, visualizing the water taking away all the negative feelings, you can smudge yourself, or use your own method. You also have to stop thinking about your friend or else you'll remain connected.
As the others have already stated; once you have connected with someones energy it can be hard to disconnect. This is why grounding is important. One method is to use sage (smudge sticks work well) to cleanse self, epson salt baths purify Self, also meditation. See yourself, and see your umbilicus- using your hand swipe through in a motion that would seperate this from your Self, thus cutting the umbilicus and the ties that were bound.
You need a grounding stone like quartz. Channel the angst into it. Smoking quartz is a good rook to have. When the rock seems "full" cleanse in salt water.