I'm going to be confirming at a Christian church soon. I don't want to I've secretly been practicing Wicca. I do have the choice to be confirmed. I don't know if I should confirm because when I'm older I'm not going to practice Christianity. I'm going to be practicing Wicca.
Re: I need help with religon By: H2OfanRikki / Novice
Post # 2 Mar 06, 2016
Dykotian, you have to do what feels right to you, if you are only going to be confirming because you feel you have to for others then you really have to think about it. We don't know whether you are still a minor in your country, if so then I suggest talking to your parents and discussing the way you feel.
Your own well being is what is important, if you don't feel comfortable then you shouldn't have to do anything.
Take some time to consider your options and the future, talk to those around you and hopefully you will find a solution.
Dykotian: If you are under age, you may well have to go through with it, as you are still limited to your parents' rule. It does not necessarily mean you must stop your studies of Wicca. But you may not be able to do so openly until you are an adult and on your own -- depending on many factors of course, such as how your parents would take it if you decided to have a chat with them about not wanting to confirm.
Re: I need help with religon By: Nekoshema / Novice
Post # 4 Mar 06, 2016
have you voiced your views to your parents? be mature, but calmly explain your views. if they still say no you have to listen if you're under age. i wouldn't advocate going through a religious ceremony you do not agree with, but it isn't legally binding, and i believe is pointless if you do not have that connection to God. i was forced into confirmation as a kid, i didn't understand it, i just did it because everyone else was and therefore i had to. i believe if you do not feel the spiritual connection any religious ceremony will not matter because it did not matter to you. i would like to believe however if you explain why you feel Wicca is right for you, your parents will understand. [but then again i grew up in a liberal household]
you could also try making a few personal changes, like call on the Horned God, don't call out 'Horned God' in church mind you, but you can visualize and reflect on your God during the confirmation.
I was brought up Catholic and was not given the option to Confirm or not, I was made confirm. Although my mother is a Witch secretly, my family would not have been happy if I didn't. Please choose what feels right for you, if you feel uts not for you, then don't be confirmed. If I had a choice, I wouldn't have. So please look inside and ask yourself if you really want this :)