Hello and happy Full Moon! I'm new to witchcraft and looking for advice. I recently recieved 2 separate readings and they both told me that I have been hexed by a woman who wishes to destroy my life. The past month has been proof of this. I need to know how I can break this and send it back her way. Any help is appreciated. Blessed Be.
Do some shielding techniques, and build up your own power. If curse has already taken an effect on your life, than it depends what kind of attack is it? is it a demon or spirit in someone's service, is it a servitor made by them, is it an energy hook that opened connection channel to you... you need to cut the cord and do the cleansing and curse lifting. check my black bath spell, if its nothing too serious it should help
This is going to be a rather long, involved post. Sorry for the eye-strain but this is what it looks like when you have a problem you need to solve in a meaningful way.
To start, I have a story...
There once was a farmer who was preparing to dig a new pit for his outhouse. But first he had to fill in the old one. The ground was soft, but it would be hard labour to push the soil in so he brought his old donkey with him to help pull it around.
Unfortunately, not long after getting started the donkey stepped too close to the edge, it collapsed, and the animal tipped and fell in. Even worse, as much as he might try, pulling and heaving to help, the ageing donkey just didn't have the strength to climb out.
Sad, exhausted, and frustrated, the farmer decided that there was no use. The Animal was old, blinding, and showing the withering effects if age and infirmity anyways. Better to let it lay. In a fit of practicality he took up the shovel and resumed his work of filling the hole. One shovelful at a time.
Before long he noticed the complaints and braying of the animal faded. Struggles and snorts calmed. As he looked over the side to confirm his suspicions of the inevitable, however, he was surprised to see the donkey standing calmly. It was still atop the soil, standing freely and un-buried.
Confused, the farmer watched the donkey as he threw more soil into the hole. As it landed squarely on the animal's back it gave a shake. The dirt fell down, and then the donkey took a step.
The farmer was taken aback, but, fueled with hope he threw more dirt in. And more. All through the day he worked. And bit by bit the donkey shook and stepped. The level of the hole rose slowly up until they were finally re-united.
In this story, you are the donkey. Something has happened in your life to put you into a hole. And someone else wants to bury you in it. Your task is to shake it off, and step up. Take the dirt being flung onto your back as a burden, and turn it into a tool for elevating yourself.
Starting at the beginning of the problem, I would recommend that your first question should by 'why am I being hexed?' Even before 'how can I remove it?' Random people do not randomly hex random targets. They are acts of revenge, or acts of control. Either someone wanted something from you they couldn't get, or you did something that affected them (directly or indirectly) and they didn't like it.
Like the donkey, stop panicking and observe your situation. Where are you. What is going on around you. Who is hexing you and why. Do this with a great-big-fat mirror in front of you saying 'take responsibility, leave denial and ego at the door.' If you can not be honest about your situation, you will not ever understand it, and you will not ever be free of it.
Note that 'taking responsibility' applies to your influences on the problem. But it also means -only- those influences. You are responsible for your own choices. Others are responsible for theirs. This is important. Figure out which is which. Be confident and certain you have the truth of it. Denial does not work because you know you are in denial. You can't escape your own mind.
Once you understand your situation, then it becomes time to shake it off. Understanding what is being done and why will inform you on how to make that happen. Cleansing, cord cutting, just plain letting it go. Like with any challenge in life once you understand the problem, the solution will become evident. In this case, at least most of the possible details of the problem can fall under three do-able actions;
Cleanse yourself- Let go of what is not yours (including responsibility). Release stress and worry, clean off and send away the baggage of others around you. That stuff isn't yours. It doesn't belong to you. So why are you taking it from them?
Cleanse your environment- Both spiritually and physically. Clean your space. Vacuum, dust, re-organise. Tables, floors, walls, behind -and- under furniture. Clean the drapes and blinds... Deep clean like a judgemental in-law is coming to inspect your space. Then clear the air: Incense, candles, crystals, perform a blessing or lesser rite of banishment. Whatever you have in your toolset, use it. And crack open a window when you do. Let out the bad air, let in the fresh. Remind yourself that this is your space. It belongs to you and you define its quality. Not the other way around.
Cut your ties- Separate yourself from the source of harm. Again, spiritually and physically. Don't hang around them. Don't talk to them. Don't go seeking them out or confronting them. Even in the case of later apology or amends, don't hang around. Express what needs to be expressed in a heartfelt way. Don't wait for acknowledgement or acceptance. It doesn't matter anyways- expectation of forgiveness entirely misses the point of how apology works. Just leave.
Spiritually, meditate on the situation. Observe the source fading to the distance until it isn't even a speck on the horizon. Or tie a cord or three between two objects (one object is you, one object is the source) and cut or burn the cord to sever it. Make a poppit or other effigy of the other person and physically walk it out of your space and leave it at a crossroads. Again, call on your own knowledge and toolkit to physically enact and symbolism the process of defining a separation and removal of this person attacking you and their influences being severed.
And finally, step up. Quit doing whatever it was that drew the person's ire in the first place! Remember way up above when I mentioned how important responsibility was? This is why. Go ahead and re-read it properly if you skipped and skimmed through the first time. It bears repeating that this is vitally important, and the single most neglected thing I have ever encountered in all of my years facing this topic.
Like the donkey, shaking off the dirt might make you feel better but if you fail to step up then you will just stay there anchored by your feet. Inevitably trapped, and buried all the same. To see freedom you need to lift yourself up.
In this case stepping up means recognizing your part in your situation, and correcting it. Use of proper Self-awareness to observe your actions and choices so you can change them and become better. If this hex is revenge, perhaps genuine apology is due. If you were selfish or harmful, reparation and correction is in order. If you have a habit of giving yourself over to others to your own detriment, and taking their responsibilities as your own then build healthier boundaries. Understand how this situation was instigated, and make a conscious choice to use it as a tool to better yourself.
Not only will you find a strange sense of gratitude for the dirt being flung your way (for how else would you have gotten what you needed to escape that hole? But that change in attitude of compassion and contentment has unbelievable power over ill intent all on its own.
A sailor doesn't curse the wind for trying to blow him around, he tacks the sails and shouts joy as he is hurtled across the water towards his destination. No one should resist what they can instead harness.
