SexyChic, Revenge and getting even are the same thing, by what you said I'm really doubting that you want revenge, you just don't want them to do what they did to you to someone else.
Revenge wont stop him from doing it to someone else, it will just be you doing what he did, by different means but with the same motives. The best thing you can do is try to prevent him from doing it again, since I don't know the whole story I'm not sure how that is, but revenge isn't something you should aim for.
But to answer your question "When is it ok to get revenge on someone", the answer (in my own beliefs) is never, bad intentions can't lead to anything good. And it will never make you feel better.
That last part depends on your personality and the circumstances, allie cat. For me if someone wrongs me or my family and I do nothing then I will beat myself up (mentally/emotionally) for it for several years at least. Getting revenge satisfies that part of me and delivers the message that they were wrong and that they ticked me off. But like I said, minor things should be over looked. If some guy slaps my sister he's dead. If some guy knocks over her milk and didn't mean to then I'll request he apologizes and if he doesn't I'll give him a lecture, but spilled milk doesn't call for violence. The revenge must be fitting to the crime if revenge is called for at all.
Revenge:
Pronunciation:
i-venj
Function:
transitive verb
Inflected Form(s):
re·venged; re·veng·ing
Etymology:
Middle English, from Anglo-French revenger, revengier, from re- + venger to avenge — more at vengeance
Date:
14th century
1: to avenge (as oneself) usually by retaliating in kind or degree
2: to inflict injury in return for
Punishment:
Pronunciation:
p-nish-mnt
Function:
noun
Date:
15th century
1: the act of punishing
2a: suffering, pain, or loss that serves as retribution
b: a penalty inflicted on an offender through judicial procedure
3: severe, rough, or disastrous treatment
I think revenge is a more fitting word for what I do.
Its always alright to hurt and kill anyone if you do it without any egoistical desires and if you can handle amplified negative energy that will manifest in you.
Nex, you basically just said it's ok to hurt and kill so long as you do not feel guilt for doing so. The reason not many can do that is because not many are that psycho.
By most religions that say anything about violence it is only ok to hurt or kill if it is in self defense or for the defense of others. I go by that belief as well, revenge or punishment are entirely different things on that subject.
Indeed they are, psychos are ones who just like killing without thinking about it.
Nex's type of killing is understanding what happens after death.. =]
Though I don't like violence..
"That last part depends on your personality and the circumstances, allie cat. For me if someone wrongs me or my family and I do nothing then I will beat myself up (mentally/emotionally) for it for several years at least. Getting revenge satisfies that part of me and delivers the message that they were wrong and that they ticked me off. But like I said, minor things should be over looked. If some guy slaps my sister he's dead. If some guy knocks over her milk and didn't mean to then I'll request he apologizes and if he doesn't I'll give him a lecture, but spilled milk doesn't call for violence. The revenge must be fitting to the crime if revenge is called for at all."--Rag
Yes it does depend on one's personality,(thats why I said my own beliefs) some people are strong enough to let things go without the need to seek vengeance or getting even, revenge is a vicious cycle. But I agree with you if someone hurt my family I would do something to make them pay, but nothing I could ever do could undo what they did, it would just spread more grief.
