You have the power to get someone back. It may be hard at first, but I think you may have to be willing within yourself that you can do it. Well, I've never gotten a loved one back, but one time I did, but I have used my knowledge to my advantage and seduced first dates into being dates in the first place.
Personally, I wouldn't hold onto the past. It's hard letting go.
Actually, second thought, go ahead and win her back. Put thoughts into her mind day and night. I'de love her like a love song on the psychic plane, and then see what becomes of it. It's called trying.
As a side note: I got a new assignment. It is to test the field, and practice putting thoughts into another's mind. It works best when the person is asleep, but for more practical measures, why not during the day in proximity of the reciepient?
Well yeah it is possible. Hearing at a distance of what a person said, either in their mind or out loud, happens quite frequently for some people. Telepathy. What you can do with your mind.
Sounds crazy and interesting, because if one can pick up other people's thoughts, emotions and words, then why not be able to send them back?
Well, any way, what would be the best time to cast a love spell, or in some malignant cases, a love hex? The reason why I brought up the term, "love hex," because it is just more than a love spell, it's a malicious or a morally obscure dark spell, where the caster's soul objective is to take complete control or own his or her reciepient.
That is just the way I work. I ramble on within my thoughts about these ideas and if one would call them concepts, then they are metaphysical concepts.
You know what? We need to take a look at our moon chart and when the best astrological hours there are available. I guess if you have all the tools, the time, the setting, the spell, the emotion then I guess the only question that you have to ask yourself is, "Why?"
If you have to ask, then ask yourself why, and are still confounded; you're still are at a stage within the steps towards acceptance. What's the thing Yoda has said? He said something about fear leads to hate, and something else, but in comparison to one of Yoda's quotes, this entire thing sounds a little dark and twisted.
Honestly, if you love her, you'll let her go. You let her go like all the little lights in the sky.
I say, love hex or love spell? I think the best thing to do is to focus on the positive and learn to discern all the hogwash. You gotta start a new weekly routine, and if you don't have a routine going, then go get one started. Starting a new routine and reaching goals is an excellent way of cutting those strings attached, and try mediation. Great topic though. It raises a lot of wonder and questions.
I love the craft more so than I would love any girl in my life, that was, that is and that is to come. I think that is another thing to consider. You gotta look past the smoke and mirrors, because when you carry emotional baggage you are blinded. Thank god Samhain is around the corner, because when it's Sow-win, we all win what we sow.
I would put the magick spell on yourself, sweetning yourself up for anybody. That way you know you did not use her free will, but she will use her own free will to come back to you, if she desires.
The second thing you could do is a hex breaking love spell on yourself. When it works, you'll see where you are really at with this lady. You may have been under your own spell all the time.
You don't need much knowledge to cast a small spell. Or, you need a lot! Forget someone professional. Do only one spell. That's it. (see above & others on this site).
Gosh, if you can't learn from your own mistakes, then experiencing trying while you make a mistake. You've got nothing to lose either way. Tell her like a drill sargent how you feel about her, and that you absolutely like her, and if she can't make the match's mark then tell her goodbye.
End of story. If you take of advantage of your gifts towards every enemy, ex-girlfriend or bad relationship: "life" itself holds you back from moving on. If you really think about it. Your stuck with what you got (your family), but people come and go all the time, and so does the world. You only live so long. You have to move on or die miserably.
I want to be your next drill sargent. Jk, but not only does magick have its tricks but it's virtues too. That is to say, truth does have it's power, its grounds.
it's been said before you shouldn't, and you're toying with free will. i do suggest you prove to her you've changed and try to get her back that way, instead of forcing her hand.
to answer your questions though:
it's a good idea to only cast one spell every full moon cycle so you don't spread your energy too thin, as well as contradict your spells.
you do not need a professional caster, you have more invested in this spell working, so you should cast it. just be sure to cast a circle, charge enough energy, and visualize.
your last questions a little confusing. if you both still cared for each other, you should be able to talk and get back together without the need for a spell. if i were you, i'd reflect on what went wrong, accept the why and work to change that so you can get her back. if you both love each other but it's one thing [say drinking] that made her leave, but she still loves you, all you have to do is stop drinking. you don't need a spell, just think before you cast really.
Neko is right. She knows how to stay out of trouble, so listen to her. On the other hand, in the end you'll wish you didn't cast at all, if you ever do. You will only not care if you don't have a conscience. You only love her when let her go.