You can't really know if a method will work or not unless you've tried it before. Same goes with the spells. If I wanted to see a spell would or not, I would test it myself.
I believe every rational spell may or may not work on everybody. (omitting fantasy spells) so the best way to know if the spell is going to change one's traits or not, would be testing it.
I don't doubt this spells effectiveness, but like with love spells and curses, you need to determine it through your own morality. A person can choose to change their personality at any time [today is the first day of the rest of your life and all that] but it is their choice to change. What this spell does is tell them to change. You are very annoyed by your boyfriends bad jokes, this spell is like saying 'you may be happy, but I'm pissed, so stop doing that so I can be happy.' This is what makes so many people upset. Force your will over another is generally seen as morally wrong.
Spells like these rarely last, and you would need to recast. A person has free will, while sometimes mental issues [like bi-polar] or substance abuse problems are the root cause and therefore need professional help, sometimes [like a negative outlook] need the person to wake up one day and decide to look on the bright side of life. Personal change and growth is a good thing, but its a journey one must take on their own. This spell suppresses their nature, not eleminate it. Talk to the person and try to help them change. In the case of abuse, again, this spell would not work, or not very long, as the reason would be deeper than 'bad temper' and needs to be addressed proffessionally.
Finally, just because something is on this website [or anywhere on the internet] doesn't mean it works and is a 100% fact. Anyone can post anything on the internet, and anyone in the council can post any spell they imagine with no one to proof read or stop them.
I think it also depends upon intention. This is really a tricky topic though because being able to objectively understand our own motivation is one of the hardest things to do.
I actually take the opposite position to most people on this forum page because I can see times when it would be acceptable. For instance, you're married and you spouse has been extremely flirtatious. Maybe she has even cheated on you once but she's is making every effort to change. You two are going for marriage counseling and she is genuinely trying to change but is having a lot of difficulty. She has made a strong commitment to you and wants to change. I could see this as being a supplement to the outside help you're already receiving in this case.
Now, I don't believe it to be healthy for your own spiritual development to just go around changing everyone you don't like. That's probably kind of selfish and not so good for your spiritual development I think. I think if your intention and motivation is good... and you're extremely careful about when you do it then there would be times when it might be acceptable but that's also different for everybody. Some people will never bring themselves to do a spell like this and you'd never be able to convince them to. All I can say in the end is that you're the one who has to live with the consequences of your actions so nobody can tell you what you will or will not do but yourself. I just encourage you to make sure your heart is in the right place and not to use it recklessly. Good luck. Blessed Be.
While I can understand this, I can also understand the desire for personal change. I can use myself as an easy example. I have a terrible temper, and for the longest I used every excuse I could think of to not have to deal with that; it was always everyone else's fault that I was angry. Then I couldn't run any farther, and had to face myself. It has taken years to come as far as I have, and the work will never end to keep myself under control.
So yeah: I can understand someone wanting a bit of directed energy to help change a negative aspect of themselves. Even if such spells are considered fluff, it might be a confidence booster or something. When I started working on myself, I would have taken all the help I could get.
Does this spell work for changing one selfs own personality. I've reccently become very angry and mean towards everyone and I want to use a spell to make myself kinder. If not, does anyone have any spells that might help me? Thanks.
Personally I don't think this spell will work. It doesn't seem strong enough to have an affect and seems like it was wrote without much effort.
Also to help you I would recommend something else like meditation instead of a spell to calm you down. Perhaps even aura work, taking a break or just doing relaxing things. This would be a lot easier then using spells because you don't need much tools and there's a higher chance of you feeling better instead of getting frustrated. Overall I wouldn't recommend most spells that have high promises at a low cost like this one.
Anon, while a spell might help, you need to work on these problems. You've noticed your shortcomings, now ask yourself 'why'. Meditation and journaling can help you as well as talking to people [professional or friends] but you can change if you try. Is there a situation or person you get upset with more? When you notice yourself doing the behavior, stop, take a few deep breathes and evaluate the situation so you can learn. It's not easy, but coupling it with a spell can help you grow.
I think a spell to change someone's personality is as bad as casting a love spell on someone, you take away the free will of someone to develop their own personality. Like a love spell, once their free will is altered to how you want it to be, it will effect their life. Their personality is how they live their life and you are changing that. It will also effect you because whoever you cast this on will no doubt be someone you know. Even if it's over the internet. And the results of that can be harmful. I know people who casted love spells which is an example of what would happen if you change someone to your will and they've been stalked by the person they casted the spell on and feared for their lives. Not to mention that having this spell casted on you would be frightening. I also happen to know someone who had a spell like this casted on them and they got physical marks all over their body, they became obsessive, and overall not in control of their thoughts, impulses, and it was starting to escalate into their actions before they realized what was going on and reversed it.
