It's nothing personal. You're post annoyed me at the moment thats all lol. If nothing else, it's a debate between different perspectives on the subject.
You'll find I'm argumentative.
You should take it more as a compliment that I would think youre offering to help with a spell would actually work. Those who I think are incapable of casting a spell to save their soul I usually say nothing to.....or am a lot meaner to.
99% of the time, I'm not as angry as my post may seem =P
oh in that case sorry. it just seemed like you where singling me out. if she wants my opinion on what she should do i suggest talking to her bf and just leting him know how she feels about this other girl. if hes a good man he will take what she says to heart.
Azignis,I have no personal grudge against you.Im sorry if it came off that way,I do however dislike the idea that magick is a hollywood movie and it should be used to take care of lifes daily troubles.I personally believe with great ability comes great responsibility.That to me means using magick for things that have meaning,not for every crush thats going to blow over in a month anyway.But I didnt mean the post as a personal attack
Visualize the meddling girl as happy and fulfilled with her new dream boyfriend, Mr. Romeo - someone obviously different than your man. Bless her and pray for her happiness. Pick out all the great characteristics her new man will have. See her leaving you along and smiling at you when you pass ways. Put effort into this outcome as if you are performing a spell. Meditate/pray/visualize. Wish her satisfaction from afar in a greener pasture.
I find this approach is often helpful. I have had several friends/clients whose spouse was being tormented by their spouse's ex. The ex felt jilted and jealous and was making mad drama, involving the children, the new wife, all-out nastiness. These various clients naturally wanted this piteous thing bound, reversed, cursed, out of the picture. In every single situation, when these folks were talked down to a kinder approach - i.e. the bless your enemy approach - darned if it didn't work every time. There was no need to pull out the nasty. The Universe was happy to bless, and the ex's chilled out once they were satisfied and feeling loved in a new relationship. Win-win!
It takes a bigger person to walk this path. Maybe also someone out of high school. Blessing your "enemy" might not fit for each person each time. i know i sound like an idealistic hippie here, but to redeem myself, go google some good old hoodoo spells (always, always helpful) (oh, and not voodoo, which is a initiatory religion) on a different site than this one and you'll surely find yourself a nice mess to get into ;-)
Imagine that girl having someone of her own, that she is happy with.
Imagine him worshiping you and having eyes only for you.
also: make sure to work on yourself and remove your flaws (in personality) but not because of him. Because it is good for you.
it seems it was just a big misunderstanding nodrk. i do not view it as a Hollywood effect or anything of the sort. i see it as a tool, life force, and knowledge, true with great power comes great responsibility, people can obtain great power easily. but using it responsibly is harder. i learned with trail and error. so i offer knowledge yet the one who learns it must learn how to use it.