Thank you. Everyone. He does know about my faith and does accept it. Thankfully. I was terrified when I first told him because I do love him. And we've discussed it and he told me that he couldn't care less if we had a Christian or Wiccan wedding. As long as he was able to marry me. But I've been so worried. What will happen when I DO tell his family? It all just has me worried. I can't imagine life without him. Thank you for all the guidance and hopefully we'll have a long life together!
If he's stuck with you this far, don't worry about his family.
There are more important things to being a married couple to think about than the difference of religion (though they can add to complications). I think the biggest question when opposing religions are present in a marriage is, if we have kids, how do we raise them.
Actually, religion or not, this is a big thing to think about because opinions on it can vary.
I agree Rashnu. We've both agreed on raising our children with an earth based religon. Neither christianity or wicca. But to love everyone and everything. We just want to be the best parents we can be. And I doubt ill tell his father. His father would never allow us to be together.
I'm in kind of the same boat as you. I'm thirteen and my family is hardcore christian. I worship the goddess, and they don't know. The only one who knows is my boyfriend and he's suported me! I hope you find a solution!
I'm in the same situation. My husband and his family are Christian and I'm Wiccan. However, my husband loves me regardless and respects our differences be they religious or otherwise. His family doesn't necessarily agree with my religious views or practices but they respect them. Not all individuals may be the same, but the point is if he loves you and respects you then your choice of religion shouldn't bother him. As for his family, if they disagree you don't have to speak with them about it. Let them know your views and leave it at that.
Re: Marriage to a Christian?? By: Sarafiel / Beginner
Post # 10 Apr 06, 2011
If his father would have issues with your choice of religion it would be wise not to tell him. You don't have to lie, just let him assume everything is normal and he will. I would avoid telling anyone in his family that might slip the knowledge to his dad just to stay on the safe side.
It sounds like everything will be just fine. Don't feel bad about hiding this information from his family because it would just cause them undue stress, and they really don't understand what's going on anyway if they would have a problem with your faith.
I'm glad to hear you are so happy and best of wishes to you and your man!!!
Re: Marriage to a Christian?? By: Nekoshema / Novice
Post # 12 Oct 29, 2011
if he knows and he's fine with it there should be no problem. is it the marriage? my boyfriend is spiritual, and born christian, but he doesn't follow the christian faith, though his family and mine are very devout christians. so what's probably going to happen to you is, when you get married, will it be in a church, or at your town hall, or will you do a wiccan hand binding ceremony. it shouldn't matter outside of that. congratulations by the way, blessed be.
Re: Marriage to a Christian?? By: Birdlover101 / Beginner
Post # 13 Oct 29, 2011
Congrats, I wish you the best and if you do decide to tell his family and they try to switch you over to being Christian just nod and pretend like everything they're saying makes sense and that you are completely interested. I've used this tactic even before I was Wiccan and it works wonders, trust me.Sometimes it makes them think that your actually considering what they are talking about. Oh, and if you are confused about the whole Wicca, Christian wedding thing you could look up both traditions and figure out a way to combine the two if you wanted to by adding elements of both traditions in your wedding.
