Thanks to you both for your replies, I appreciate the kind thoughts.
I can't beleive I am even resorting to magic to help with this situation, I always thought we were strong and could sort anything out between us....we always could. I know a little before she left, she was mixing with some adults, who she was very influenced by. I know they made suggestions to her about leaving home, but never ever thought she could be so easily influenced. I have also been informed that since she left, they have encouraged her to stay away and told her she did the right thing. Unfortunately theres nothing i can do or say to stop this, because if I do say anything to these adults, she will accuse me of interfering, and become ever more estranged. I just feel like my hands are tied, and whilst these adults are influencing her in such a negative way, I have no hopes of getting her home.
Its as if she has just shut down on me, and the longer she stays away, the colder she becomes.
Thats why I need to try this, because its the only thing I have left to try...but because I am so bad at casting spells, I could really use some advice on which spell may work, and what I should do to increase my success.
i know the strain of mother/daughter relationships.i left home when i was 14.but my situation was quite different.my mother and i didn't speak for 2 years almost after that.it was of no fault of my own.try a peace spell for 3 days.then a healing spell for 3 days.and then return a loved one spell for 3 days.and u must put your heart in it 100%.and you have to believe in the magyk.nothing is fixed over nite.but it may get you back on the track of having a relationship.ask her to lunch or somethin.just the 2 of you.and don't make it seem that your trying to push her to come home.let her know that you love her and you support her decisions.(even if you don't think they are the right ones.)but she's tryin to be an adult and let her know that you'll always be her mother and you'll always be a rock for her to lean on.and maybe she'll see that you're trying to let her grow up.just be there. BLEESED BE.
Re: I need my child back By: kts Moderator / Adept
Post # 6 Sep 22, 2008
Sorry but a spell is not going to fix this. Let her see that her new life is only better because it is new and that life lessons will catch up with her. Soon she will want a "new" life when this new one gets old or is not going the way she wants. That is the problem with teens, they want the easy path not the right path for them. Give it some time, I am sure if her life was as good as you say it was then she will return to your home.
I was in your situation with my oldest daughter, she would barely talk to me for almost 2 years, and would say mean and hurtful things, at first I tried to reach out to her but that just pushed her away even more. I came to realize that just by letting her know I still loved her and I would always be there for her and not trying to push things with her that she would eventually grow and mature and come to understand how things were and why they were or at least a better understanding as to why the were that way. Since then she has grown and matured and we now have an even better relationship. She is now 19 living on her own and moved into the town house next door to me. So just have hope and believe that she will grow and mature and see how things happen, sometimes it can take a long time but I wouldn't push things with her it will only push her away, it sounds like there are things she needs to sort out for herself and will in time. Just let her know you are there for her and that you will always love her.
Again, thankyou so much for your responces, advice and experiences, I can't tell you how lovely it is to find such support from people I have never met, it really is heart warming. Just when you think the world is full of negativity, I come here and find people so willing to offer their input. Thankyou.
I think I am going to try that peace spell, if only to bring some peace to myself, as I feel as though my heart is breaking. I miss her soooo much, its a physical pain.
Its amazing, of all the parenting and pregnancy books I read when they were babies, not one of them told me that they gorw up and break your heart :( If we knew the pain and heartache that our babies will bring, I bet there'd be fewer people having children lol.
Anyway, again many thanks.
Izzie x
well maybe you could try : 1 candle preferable white write on paper her name light candle an burn the paper and saying : my beloved duaghter (state duaghters name) i ask you return safe and sound to my open arms may the past be the past and return to me unharmed may we have another chance together so mote it be. adapt the words however you like and at end meditate on her comeing back and safly in your arms it might not bring her back to you but it may help ur situation best wishes Joethewicca/Darkhorus27
Hi Izzie,
I knew you would get some good advice here, glad that you have recieved some suggestions.
I'm curious though, I never knew you could use a return a love spell for a family situation. I thought they were just for when you had lost a lover kind of situation. Thats really interesting to know.
Would you have to adapt the wording then, to make it work for a family situation?
Kez x
Izzie, with love and respect, I raise an eyebrow as to you mentioning you are turning to spells as a last resort, the statement should be "I am turning to magic because I have the power within me to turn things around". I have learned in very few months that the more I believe and focus on my inner strentgh the faster and `more positive my spells come out. Please believe in yourself and your power!
(between you and me, when casting candle magic, if you notice the flame flickering or waving, tell it to stand tall and mighty for your spell looking straight at the flame and you will see it do it).
Your child is having no fun without you at all. They want revenge and would like to see you in pain. The best thing to do is just let them be until their personal strike is over. If it has been a month+, I suggest yelling at the child to come back, or get the authorities to make her/him come back. Life - mother/father = terrible future life. It's just the math.
