Being Propositioned?

I hope the change will help you. I know it's a difficult thing and I support you.

Again, I want to say it's not your fault or anything you do. These folks are completely at fault.

Thank you so much, Rethet, I hope those maleswill stop propositioning me, too, and if not, well, I can report them if they dont listen when I tell them to stop.

Be it rude or not its the truth, report the members who are bothering you and move on with your lives . Unless of course you just want to rub it in the mud some more be my guest you can sit around in here all day and write about how terrible it is that's your right. This site is for magic users and if someone is using it for anything other than its original intended purpose then it should be reported period. If you both feel my comments to be an error of judgment so be it i am entitled to an opinion.

Ah, did you completely miss everything I said, or are you deliberately ignoring it? Rude or not, did you also completely miss how I clearly and obviously said I was looking for advice and wanta way to properly block themso I dont have to even see their comments in other places where I wish to be? Did you miss how I was saying that I dont want to be harassed period? But of course, Im sure you arent aware of what its like, since you are a male and will be statistically more privileged in the regards of not usually having to deal with sexual harassment, if having to deal with it at all.

You are entitled to your own opinion, however please refrain from enforcing it where it isnt wanted in the slightest. I did not ask for you to continue reinforcing what I already have read, and you rudely stated. Also, I would hardly call asking for alternatives dragging mud aroundin fact, almost no one would call asking for advice dragging mud around. Have a good day, Sassy.

It seems like this thread is going into discourse, which I honestly don't want to be involved in, so I'm just going to give advice based on the original post.

Luckily the moderators on this site do a wonderful job, so there are much less disrespectful people on SoM than on most sites, at least from my experience, but there are still some unfortunate people in the mail sometimes.

Obviously blocking and reporting is an option, but continuously blocking and reporting people can get pretty annoying, especially if the first message is explicit. I've had people say really inappropriate things as soon as they message me (luckily not on this site, but on others), which I'd prefer not to read at all, as they make me pretty uncomfortable. So I definitely understand wanting to take preventive measures.

I've found that not having any human/humanoid entity in a profile picture helps (I've had cartoon characters as a profile picture, and even that seems to make people more likely to message that sort of thing). Having a picture/drawing that's female or can be perceived as female seems to bring more inappropriate messages. Obviously that's unfortunate, as people should be able to have feminine drawings as their profile pictures without being harassed, but it's something I've found to help. I usually use pictures of nature as my profile pictures online, and people tend to not want to flirt with trees lol, so that seems to help.

Sometimes spells can help with things like that, such as casting a spell to make people look over you if they're looking for romantic or sexual relationships. In the case of full-blown harassment, protection spells can help prevent things like that as well.

It sounds as if you handled it well, given that you did what you could as far as blocking and reporting. Keeping it from happening at all is obviously ideal, though. I've had experiences on some sites that have made me feel unsafe or triggered some mental illness episodes, so I completely understand and sympathize with wanting to prevent it.

Again, it's unfortunate that people have to do things just to not be harassed, so I'm sorry you realize with this and I hope it doesn't happen again! (And again, I don't really want to contribute to any discourse because I'd rather not be involved in things like that; I just want to give some advice because being harassed like that is really uncomfortable.)

Thank you so much, @Rhododendron, I really appreciate you pitching in, and I think I might change my profile picture to a picture of a beautiful dagger that is in no way feminine to see if that helps. Once again, thank you, I understand completely what youve described is like, and I sincerely hope that eventually the pages and websites that decent people traverse will be rid of such harassment.

Your right i have had so much privilege being a male homosexual witch. Your making this about gender and this is not about gender. You were already told as you stated what you could do and i have to agree other than blocking/reporting there is not much you can do after that. I dearly hope with all my heart you find the answer that will solve this problem of yours for good.

Clearly...no, trying to explain the obvious to you is not worth my time. Have a good day, Sassy.

You have a good day as well Cirathina.

To anyone that is having this issue, if you have asked them to stop and they continue to harass you, you can block them and then report the mails to the site administrator. Just be sure to save all the mails in a folder so that he can easily find them and look over them. You can either mail him directly, or use the report mail option in the yellow box, underneath the message the other member has sent to you.