So, as my earlier post stated, I cast my first spell last night, a binding love spell. So, it was not all smooth but I had been feeling pretty good about it until I saw my guy the next day. What a mess! Everything felt off and instead of feeling like we got closer he seemed miles away. So now I am wondering if I did something really wrong or if it is just a coincidence. I didn't expect perfect results on a first try, but getting the exact opposite has me really frustrated and confused.
It could be due to the particular type of spell you cast. Bending another's will isn't so easy as hocus-pocus voila! You have to really keep it up and maintain a certain level of attention to the project until the results come. He may have been getting nasty vibes from you? Who knows.
I agree with Kikuyo. It's pretty tough to bend another person to your will (let's not even get into the discussion about the ethics involved with it) and sometimes the object of your intention will get some nasty, creepy vibes from you.
It's better not to mess with that, but if you feel like you must...keep practicing.
Very good point I do agree, also there this:
Your belief in the spell could have been faltered, therefore the spell didn't really even have any affect (total failure). While as you didn't realize that it had been a failure. In which this is a possibility:
Something I've Noticed About Guys...
is they pick up on change in mood and behavior extremely well, it freaks them out; if you went in there with the slightest twitch or change in the way you act around him might have done it - not the spell. In all, making him sort of draw away from you not because of a spell but because you seemed to be possibly expecting something of him - possibly resulting in a slight change in behavior.
I don't think the argument is bending someone's will (we'll never get to the bottom of it lol) but that he may be aware of her intentions. If my will were bent to say, get my help on homework or 5 bucks or something and I have no clue, it makes no difference in my life and as long as we're both still well-off, leave it at that. But if I become aware or was from the beginning, that's where the karma and judgement, morals and ethics, etc, etc, come to surface.
I don't mean to propose the ''If a tree falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?'' debate on morals, lol. I don't care who is doing bad things, who is not, because she is aware of the magick she's casting and she'll be rewarded or punished in the end.
As for the spell not working, I think it boils down to focus. You have to be devoted to your purpose and pursue it with actions backed by intent.
From my perspective, we all bend to each other's will like a field of blowing wheat. It's a harmonious transaction and there is nothing wrong with getting what you want through others, so long as you can return the favor. It's when, in my opinion, that you ask for more than you need or get greedy or overly-selfish that karma and whatever else accumulates and you get punished. When wills clash is where I suppose the big issue is.
