In the past few years I've noticed that like-minded people seek me out - find me in the most unlikely places. In fact, they don't have to be like-minded, sometimes they can just be regular people. People trust me easily, and I have no idea why. I would not call myself a trustworthy person, nor would I call myself an untrustworthy person either. I would define myself as loyal to those I care for. People also feel an urge to talk to me about the most personal of things, even when I hardly know them. Things they wouldn't tell a single soul. They feel that I understand them completely, and desire to confide in me and ask for advice. On top of all this, I find I can quite easily get close to almost anyone I like, close enough for them to call me their best friend within a few months if not less. I attract people who interest me: People with Bipolar Disorder, self-loath or anorexia. I don't know why, and I don't know anything about empathy either.
My question to you is, am I empathic, or if not, what is up with me?
I have a similar situation, and I believe it has to do with some of the "vibration" theories out there. Like, people of a similar vibration will seem to seek each other out, and people of complementary vibrations will seek each other out... like puzzle pieces, the helper and the needy, the healer and the sick. It may be that you have something these people are drawn to, some personality trait. You said they think of you like their best friend very quickly, so you probably make these people very comfortable.
I'd say that empathy is part of it -- we're all empathic. Do you connect with these people or feel like "What the heck?" all closed off and stuff?
I can understand them and usually care, and helping them/cheering them up is something I'm able to do with relative ease. A select few have told me I'm brilliant at making them feel like a star again, but I can't remember how I did it nor would I know how to cheer somebody up if I thought about it right now. My mind is simply devoid of that knowledge.
When I was younger I never knew what it was, I would feel all these emotions, anger, love, hate sadness etc usually all in one go especially when I was around people. I thought I was going mad, especially in my teens what with hormones and over emotions.
I often have people coming too me for their worries and or troubles and try to help out in ways that I can, as we are able to embark on their emotions and some how soak them up for them, yet it leaves us with their emotions. As they walk away feeling relieved and happy we can be stuck with what emotion they were feeling.
It wasn't until two years ago I realised what it was I was feeling and found ways to shield myself so I did not absorb others emotions around, especially in large crowds; but some still sap through. We know those who are just out to zap us of our energy and we try to say clear of them. I have met people who generally need help; I help them, then they just want more and more, I then start feel drained by that person and notice they come to us for our energies, they feel they need our help to make themselves feel better as we are able to remove what they feel. Again you have to learn (sometimes the hard way) of who we can help and who we must stay away from to protect ourselves as their emotions overdrown us and end up suffocating.
As an empath, we mange to pick up peoples vibrations of their senses, we take that in, absorb it enabling those to feel relief, yet we can only take in so much and we must learn to rid of that so we do not overload ourselves with others.
maybe there gifts from the goddess, and empathy is strong in u if people can trust u, for i have the same thing. but i think of them as gifts of the goddess or gods.
maybe there gifts from the goddess, and empathy is strong in u if people can trust u, for i have the same thing. but i think of them as gifts of the goddess or gods.
I am also an empath and agree that you might be one.
empathy is not a fun gift to have. Intense mood swings, head aches, and break downs will make you feel that your going insane.
People will come to you with proplems because your an empath. Someone who didn't know I was an empath came up to me one day and said I had this kinda calm haze around me that made her feel safe and she felt like everything would be ok around me. She was more right than she knew.
In empathy you don't just feel other people's emotions, they become your emotions. This makes for intense mood swings and when in crowds, major migranes and claustrophobia. I recently had a break down in a crowd because I was sick and couldn't sheild my mind. I nearly passed out, got a killer mirgrane, and blawed for hours. Not fun.
Some call empathy a gift, others a curse. I call it life and so do you. We have to learn to deal with it and sometimes we can even use it for good. I helped a friend get through her clinical depression untill her meds we able to stablize her. No matter how badly that effected me, I still was able to help and that's what really matters.
Its our job to help people. Its the reason why we were given this gift or curse. Its our purpose or destiny and even if it can ruin our lives sometimes, we still have to continue on to help others.
I made a spell to help block most emotions and some of the ill effects of empathy like the migranes. It only involed a quartz necklace and salt water and was very easy. If anyone wants it just message me and I'll be glad to help. Good luck with your empathy Callum M and may the Goddess bless you all.
-AliRose
