confusion

hey, i know that this probably isn't te site to ask this, but i really need help.
i have a girl friend who i haven't seen in over a week, her family went on vacation. i met this other girl and i barely know her, but i can't get her out of my head. like, right before i go to sleep, i see her face smiling at me when i close my eyes.
am i an idiot, a douche, or is this normal? and, what should i do?

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seems like a crush you are attracted to her

its more than a crush, its like i love her too. i cant talk to her cuz i get too nervous and feel guilty. the other girl is funny, pretty, and i dont know if she likes me at all. and i just don't know what to do. if i ask anyone i do know, i would feel like a douche. dont get me wrong, i love my girlfriend and if i told her this, what would happen? i cant go through life without her, i just dont know what to do. the guilt just keeps building up and it hurts my chest. does any one know what i should do?

As long as you stay faithful your not a douche, second love takes time to build, so I doubt what you feel is love. If you feel so strongly about your girlfriend and feel guilty around this other girl, well you might just have to avoid seeing her, and if you told your girlfriend about it you might just end up single, or at least in a big fight

i have known this girl for almost 5 years and never felt anything

Hmm well life has its ways of throwing us curve balls. What you need to do is a LOT of thinking about what these two girls mean to you, and go deep and honest with yourself, no BSing about it. If you decide that you want to be with this other girl, you have to be honest with her and your girlfriend. The best suggestion I can give you for now is to try and get to know her as friends, learn about her, and try to see if the two of you could honestly work out (don't tell her your doing that of course), if not you still have a good friend

well, i tried what you said to do and be myself around her. after she tried to break my arm, she was like instantly nice. women are a confusing species. thanks for the advice