Help for Cleansing Spell?

HI, I'm a novice with and I practice solitary, so this is my first time reaching out to the wider community, because I need help with a cleansing spell.

My Dad died recently and I'm now sleeping in the room he basically died in. (Officially he died in the hospital, but he would have died here had the ambulance crew not revived him.) Since then, I've felt his presence in this room quite a bit. Sometimes I can't sleep and it's... y'know. I want to sleep.

So I've been looking up cleansing rituals but they all sound a bit... impersonal? I don't feel that this energy is negative but it is constant.

I was thinking of making my own cleansing ritual but I'm not sure how to go about it (I've never made my own spell before) and I want to do it right. I was thinking of "smudging" with lavender from his grave and burning three white candles for, you know, life/death/rebirth but... mm. I'm just not sure. It's important to me that I don't banish anything! Just, if possible, quiet down his presence so that I can get some rest.

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I'm sorry for your loss. Very sorry.

When my dad was killed, even though she didn't believe in the possibility (she believed people went directly to their destination in the afterlife), my mother insisted my dad stuck around the house for a few days, and returned a few more times.

I would carefully consider your desire to do a cleansing. If your dad is hanging around, do you really want to make him leave? Or maybe the seeming presence is his lingering energy, sort of his essence clinging to the house and his belongings.

He may be having as difficult a time as everyone else, coping with his passing.

Again, my condolences to you and your family.

Yeah, that's just the thing. I don't want him to leave I just want my room to be a more peaceful place because at the moment it's a very ...charged... space for me. Maybe something for peace and tranquility as opposed to cleansing? I have my charged windchimes in the window and a few hanging crystals to catch the sun but they don't seem to be making much of a difference as of yet.

from a grave nothing can be brought to the house, it is hazardous to health.
you should make simply repair in the room (wall-paper has to be new and paint walls and a ceiling) and to throw out all things of the father - a bed, chairs and to replace them with the new

Already done, not helping in the slightest.

Also I was thinking the lavender because I feel a strong pull towards using it that I've never felt before and I know it's at his grave site. It's in a pot! Not planted in the ground! But yeah, maybe it would be better to get lavender from somewhere else.

it is necessary to address mentally to the father and to ask to leave you alone

Being aware of your father's presence may seem uneasy to you. Talk to him. Poor out your feelings of missing him, but that his presence is making you feel bad. Missing him is fine. Having him watching you constantly would make me uneasy too. lol Spirits will listen. I know, as I have visitors come here, usually to pause in theit travels. When their coversations with each other were waking me, I asked them to keep it down, as and did. My place is spirit friendly, but some people prefer not to have them around. That's fine. Just talk to him. It will help. BB