This may or may not make me sound like a terrible person, not my intention.
Have any of you that are Empaths ever feel as though your "gift" is more of a curse? I have been feeling this way for a while, i honestly hate that i am sensitive to others emotions and care. Is there a spell to get rid of my empathic abilities?
I'm not sure if I'd consider myself a true empath, but I am very sensitive to my surroundings and it can oftentimes be draining. Having time to be alone and relaxing is helpful, although when around others shielding against unwanted energies has been very helpful for me. If you're around a person with emotions you don't want to feel, removing yourself from the situation if possible has helped as well.
Everybody has made great points, but I don't feel that a empathy gift can be removed. Yes you can numb it down, but those things hurt you in a physical, emotional and a soul level as will. Remember your allowed to say no, just keep in mind of people who are, only using you for your energy. Shielding really is your best friend, so suit up every morning before you go out. Mother Nature also has your back to. I understand it's draining, but on the flip side somebody else gets to feel great for the day, somebody else feels like their listened to. And to me that makes me proud because than, my job is done and I can walk away from them.
It doesn't at all make you a 'bad person' to want relief from something that feels overwhelming. Especially if it is causing you undue stress/harm. While there isn't a specific spell to close thay particular door, people can and do block off personal talents all the time. It just takes consistent willful effort to set what is happening aside and to consciously ignore/deny each individual event. It will over time close the door.
Though, before taking such actions I would offer an alternative to first work to take ownership and control of what you are open to. It takes about the same effort and time, but doesn't cut you off from a natural part of yourself or close your awareness off to the world around you.
First, practice some basic meditation for a few minutes every day. Ten or twenty minutes as you lay down to sleep would even be enough to pay dividends. Become conscious of your breathing and use that to bring yourself to the present moment. Then consciously relax your body (A deep slow sigh works wonders. Slooooow breath in, then let it whoosh out as you relax yourself.) Then use whatever time you like after to run through your thoughts and feelings. Identify them. Recognize their presence. Feel out which thoughts and emotions are yours and which ones are outside influence. Suss out how they feel different from your own. What kinds of thoughts and emotions you most often carry with you from others.
Then ask yourself why you are even holding on to those emotions. They aren't yours after all. Reming yourself to not make them yours. You aren't responsible for them. Nor are you resposible for changing/curing them. So let them go. Visualize yourself wrapping up these foreign emotions in a little blanket of love and care then send it away to the place it came from. (energy knows the way. Just give it the proverbial pat on the bum and send it out the door.)
As you get a handle on what is and isn't yours, apply that to your interactions with others. Tecognize what is yours and what isn't. Learn the distinction between -recognizing- an emotion is there versus feeling it as if it were yours. Set personal boundaries. Temind yourself that while you can offer support and ecouragement, advice and experience, ultimately the responsibility of action lies in the other person.
Think of it this way... Emotion is energy. If you take it and make it yours you are taking that energy from that person. Also, likewise people are responsible for their choices and the lessons that come from them. If you are trying to do the work for them, then you are making their choices for them as well and denying them opportunities to grow. All you accomplish is strain on yourself and enablement on the other people.
Healing is a tricky balance between recognizing that your actions are not to heal. People can only act to heal themselves. Rather what a healer does is help create an environment of empowerment on an individual, that then helps them heal themselves.
In turn this will also build a sense of personal awareness that will translate into authority over yourself and your experiences. In time this should help give you a choice on when you want to tune in to the people around you, and when you want to commit your awareness of such things to the background.
I feel that way all the time. Being an empath comes with an instruction manual on how to screw up your life. if you cant differentiate other people's energies and emotions from your own it could be a very hard time to function and grow as a person. Shielding of course will help you and focus and meditation.
